20 Things I've Learnt In 20 Years

A few months ago, I turned 20. I'M NO LONGER A TEENAGER! That's actually baffling. I can't believe I've survived through my teenage years. Although I'm not pleased with growing older, I cannot express how happy I am that I'm 20. My teenage years weren't the best... but I know that my 20's will be some of the happiest years of my life.

I've learnt a lot in my 20 years of life so far. I thought I'd share them with you as a reflection on my life and how I can improve in my adulthood. I hope you enjoy :)

1. Taking other people's thoughts into consideration usually makes you unhappy. I struggle with certain issues all the time, and I'm constantly thinking about how others will judge me rather than how I judge myself. I need to learn to stop doing this, because it usually adds more stress to my issues.

2. It's really not that hard to appreciate the little things. I'm not sure why we live in a society where people are constantly needing huge things. Personally, as long as I have a home that makes me feel comfortable, a loving family, enough money to get by, and the support from my boyfriend, then I don't really need anything else. I feel so fortunate every day that I have more than I need, and there is never a moment that goes by where I'm not appreciative of my life.

3. If you find yourself attractive, then no-one else matters. This is something that I've recently learnt. When I feel pretty, I don't care about how other people view the way I look. I'm pleased with the way I look, and that's all that matters.

4. Don't leave all your school/college/uni work til the last minute. It's much less stressful to do it straight away.

5. Stop blaming yourself for things that happened years ago. You're not the same person anymore.

6. I've achieved a lot in the past few years, and I need to give myself more credit.

7. It's not healthy to have multiple hot chocolates daily.

8. It's also not healthy to eat tortellini every day for a week.

9. Uni really tests your independence, but has massively increased my confidence.

10. If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change the way you feel about it.

11. If you water your succulents too much, they will die and you'll feel like a murderer.

12. You will never regret taking pictures during happy times. I constantly look back at pictures and smile at how happy that moment was.

13. Some people just aren't good people, and there's nothing you can do about it. Just avoid them if you can and continue to live your happy little life.

14. Always be polite to people... until they screw you over >:)

15. I should never have started playing World of Warcraft because now I'm addicted and actually prioritised it over revising for my exams...

16. Don't be too quick to judge people, especially the one's that I have to see every day.

17. Refusing to watch the News was one of the best things I decided to do because I'm so much happier now I'm not aware of the awful things going on in the world.

18. There's no such thing as having 'too many candles'.

19. If you ever feel unmotivated when doing uni work, have a shower, splash your face with water, freshen up and just get on with it.

20. I have a very lucky life.

This blog post is waaaaay deeper than I expected it to be! Thank you for reading this, I hope you have a lovely day. Let me know anything you've learned in your life too in the comments, I'd love to know!


Favourite Summer Memories / 2017

Now that summer has unfortunately come to an end, it's time to reminisce on the amazing experiences I had! Summer 2017 was definitely one of the best summers I've ever had and it's put me in an amazing mood to start my third year at university now! Here are some of the reasons why last summer put a huge smile on my face:

Family Trip to The Lake District
Exploring the UK is one of my favourite things to do, so this trip to the Lake District with my family was exactly what I needed. I saw some beautiful views, I felt extremely British, I re-discovered my love for Peter Rabbit, and all my stress and worries disappeared. This trip was fantastic. 

Meeting Asian Elephants in Laos
Don't even get me started talking about this trip. I could be here for hours explaining how life-changing this was. If you want to hear a bit more about it, I have a blog post (click here) about my experience. For now, I'll leave you with an adorable picture of the friendly elephants I met.

Zip-Lining Through the Mountains in Laos
I was so proud of myself for doing this even though I was so terrified! I had never zip-lined before, however I absolutely loved it. The views were too beautiful to even describe, and the feeling of being pushed off a tree and 'flying' through the mountains was perfect.

Family Holiday in Malta
This family holiday in Malta was incredible! We usually never go abroad on holidays, so this trip was extremely special. We all had the best time and it's a trip that always makes me smile whenever I think about it.

Visiting Hypogeum Temples in Malta
This experience was super special because the Sal-Haflieni Hypogeum temples are approximately 5000 years old. We had to book tickets 6 months in advance in order to see them, so I'm so happy I did! I felt so lucky as I was walking through the underground temples, as that was an experience that not many people get to do. (No pictures because security don't allow it, to preserve the temples). 

Birthday Meal with My Friends
I travelled back up north for a 20th birthday meal with my friends, and that made me extremely happy. I also spent my last night in my student house and officially moved out, so I felt a bit emotional on this trip! 

Got a Tattoo
I randomly decided one day to get a tattoo! This was such a spontaneous decision for me, but I am so happy with it. Every time I see my little tattoo on my hip, I get a burst of happiness because it's so perfect. I'm going to do a blog post on the meaning behind my tattoo so stay tuned for that.

The Script
My favourite band released a new album and I got to see them live (for the fourth time)! This was a fantastic evening with my mum; we strolled along the beach beforehand, had amazing food, and danced all night. 

Overall, this summer has been the best and has made me so happy. I feel like such a lucky person to have experiences like this, and I'm so excited to see what autumn brings.

What happy experiences did you have in summer? I'd love to know in the comments.


Autumn Fashion Wishlist

As I write this it is pouring it down with rain outside, which really sets the scene for this blog post and makes me feel even more autumnal. I've been noticing a lot of fashion items recently which I've taken quite a fancy to, and have added them to my wishlist in the hopes of possibly purchasing some of them. Hopefully this blog post can make you feel slightly more autumnal as the terrible weather approaches us.

Aspinal of London The Dockery Small (Smooth Soft Taupe) - £895.00
When I first saw this bag, I completely fell in love with it. Not only is the colour absolutely beautiful, but the bag itself is very practical as it has enough space inside for all your handbag essentials and it actually closes properly (something which I find a lot of bags don't actually do!). It's versatile and will go with a lot of outfit looks.

Lipsey Grey Parker Jacket with Fur and Frill Detail - £100.00
Everybody needs a soft, warm coat for cold weather. This one is a gorgeous colour, can be thrown over any outfit, and will be extremely practical due to the hood and thickness. It can also be drawn in at the waist, making it flattering on your body.

River Island Midi Jumper Dress (Cosmetic) - £40.00
When it gets colder outside, I want to stay warm but still look feminine and stylish. This jumper dress does exactly that. The pink creates femininity (but not too much), it looks incredibly warm and snuggly, and it's just super pretty. Pair it with some black or grey tights and ankle boots and you'll be sorted for autumn.

ASOS Knitted Swing Dress with Bright Stripe (Multi) - £30.00
An alternative to the previous jumper dress. If pink isn't your colour or you want a slighty thinner material, this jumper dress would be perfect. The stripes across the torso make it original and it would just be a lovely thing to wear on a nice day out, especially with patterned black tights.

ASOS Cable Pom Beanie with Natural Faux Fur Pom (Pink) - £12.00
I LOVE HATS. This hat is so gorgeous, would go with the pink jumper dress, the bag and the coat I've listed, and would keep you extremely warm. I love bobble hats so much, and this is definitely one I will consider purchasing.

ASOS ELINA Heeled Ankle Boots (Black) - £45.00
These ankle boots are beautiful. I love that they're black so they can go with most outfits, but the gold heel makes them feel that little bit extra special. They don't look too high either, so they may be quite comfortable to walk around in.

Hunter Refined Constellation Print Chelsea Wellington Boots (Midnight) - £100.00
These shoes are a complete dream. They're so pretty and unique! I love the navy and how it looks like a midnight sky. These definitely feel like autumn/winter shoes and would get you in the mood for cold weather!

I hope you enjoyed this blog post; I plan to upload a makeup autumn wishlist too so make sure you come back for that!

What is on your autumn wishlist? Let me know in the comments.


My Heart Belongs To Travelling

I have changed a ridiculous amount this year. I don't even feel like the same person I was a few months ago. It's as though when I had my 20th birthday in May I drastically changed my personality overnight. I ain't complaining though.

Rewind a few years and you'll see me as a timid, quiet girl who would avoid all social interaction, rarely leave the house, make no effort in maintaining relationships, and never leave my comfort zone. See me as I am now, and I'm the complete opposite.

Travelling had a huge part in my personality-transplant. Each year, my family always go to different parts of the UK to explore the countryside and cherish how beautiful this country is. Although I love these trips to DEATH and they always make me relaxed, last year I decided to embark on a trip to Malaga with my friends. Considering I had only ever left the country before when I was a child with my family, this was a pretty big step for me. But, I had the best time ever and that trip sparked a desire within me to travel more.

Which was why I decided to travel to Southeast Asia this summer to volunteer in an Elephant Conservation Camp in Laos. That was the best flippin' decision I ever made.

Not only did I endure a 12-hour long journey to Bangkok, then another 2 hour journey to Laos, then a 9 hour journey from Vientiane to Sayaboury, then immediately begin my voluntary duties; but I also travelled to Malta just 3 days after I came back from Laos!

Considering I wasn't much of a traveller before those trips, I'm so impressed with myself.

The person I was 5 years ago would never have decided to do that. Hell, even the person I was 2 years ago wouldn't have done that. I can sense my personality changing all the time, although I'd prefer to use the term 'developing' rather than 'changing'.

Deciding to travel has increased my confidence drastically. I've already booked a little trip for Christmas time and I'm planning loads of things next year. If I had the money, I'd be on a flight to somewhere random tomorrow. 

I'm not too sure what the point of this blog post is. I just think it's nice to start thinking about my strengths rather than my weaknesses. And this summer has definitely been one of the strongest parts of my life.

Why don't you start thinking about your strengths? Let me know in the comments below what you're proud of, what you've achieved, or how you'd like to develop yourself! I love hearing people saying nice things about themselves - it leads to a world full of confident, happy people.


Entering My Third Year At University

Huh??? How am I already entering my FINAL year at university? Where did my first and second years even go?! Whaaaat?

Okay, okay. I'm chill now. I just can't believe how fast my life is going. The other day, my friends began doing some research for their dissertations, and that freaked me out. Like, I'm actually doing a dissertation this year, and I need to start it now. I don't feel ready for it!

Because I want my third year at university to be my best year yet, this blog post is going to be about my goals for third year! Then, when/if I graduate, I'll be able to look back and see if I achieved my goals. Let's get to it:

Start Revising For My Exams Earlier
-When it comes to exam revision, I always think of the one quote that a very kind lecturer once told me: "Do little, but often". I applied this to my first and second year exams and achieved First's in the majority of them. This is a great tip so that you get lots of revision done without tiring yourself out. I aim to revise for my exams almost two months before in order to do small amounts of revision each day, and have enough time to learn everything without being exhausted. 

Work On My Dissertation Every Day
-As my dissertation is a HUGE project, I need to work on it as much as possible. I'm going to start working on it next week (before I've even started third year) so that I can get it done properly without rushing it or stressing myself out. I can't mess this up!

Spend As Much Time With My Friends As Possible

-After graduation, my friends and I will all go our separate ways. Who knows how often I'll be able to see them after that? My friends have made my time at university amazing, so in third year I aim to make plans with them as much as I can because I know I won't be able to once we graduate.

Make Plans For After Graduation
-I need to make life plans. Will I try to get a job, or will I apply for a postgraduate? Right now, I am adamant that I want to do a specific Master's course; I know which one but whether or not I'll be accepted is a different story. I need back-up plans. I need plans upon plans. I just want a life plan sorted out so that I don't come out of third year and think "oh... what do I do now?".

Take On A New Volunteering Role
-The career that I want to take on requires lots of experience within voluntary and paid positions. No experience? No chance I'm ever getting my dream job. Although I have a few roles on my CV, it's not enough! Alongside third year, I want to take up a new voluntary position in order to help out and be able to get some more experience for my CV. My future self will thank my present self so much for this.

Entering my third year at university is flipping my brain out. It's only just dawned on me that I'm a fully-fledged adult now and the sooner I deal with that, the better. I'm hoping that I can stick to these goals and make third year amazing!

Did you go to/are you currently at university? Do you have similar goals to me? Do you know what the hell you're doing with your life? Let me know in comments!


New Year's Resolutions / 6 Month Progress (2017)

At the beginning of each year, I like to do a New Year's Resolutions post where I talk about my goals for the year and what I would like to achieve (you can view the 2017 post here). Now that half of the year has already passed ~which I still can't quite believe~ I have decided to reflect on the resolutions I set myself at the beginning of the year to see if I've made any progress and if I'm close to achieving my goals.

-Take More Opportunities-
I have definitely achieved this goal and feel as though I don't need to make this a New Year's Resolution for any more years! Yay! My goal to taking opportunities started when I applied to travel to Asia to look after elephants in a conservation camp and teach English to children in a small village. This was waaaaay out of my comfort zone and is completely unlike me! I have also taken opportunities by doing more volunteering alongside my university degree. Overall, I've become more independent and have made more adventurous life choices; I've taken almost every opportunity to make my life as exciting as it can be. Therefore, I have achieved this goal and I'm confident that I'll be able to continue with this!

-Focus On My Health-
Ahh, one goal that I actually really struggle with. When I'm at uni, I'm so lazy that I can never be bothered to cook a proper healthy meal. Ready meals and oven-baked pizzas are pretty much the only things in my diet. This is a goal that I will definitely aim to focus on when I move back to uni, because my unhealthy diet has caused a lot of stomach problems for me and I'm definitely not that healthy! In terms of exercise, I've actually done really well with this so far and I'm super proud of myself. I started weightlifting and got my flatmate ~who's training to be a Personal Trainer~ to write me a fitness plan. I'm proud of myself for this and hope I can keep it up!

I have no idea why I struggle with this goal so much. I find it difficult to relax ALL THE TIME. Even when I'm at home, chilling out all day, I still find it difficult to completely 100% relax. I'm not sure why this is, but I'm constantly working on ways to relax my body and mind. So although I haven't achieved this goal much so far this year, I'm confident in the fact that I will eventually one day be able to fully relax.

-Remain Organised-
This is a goal that I've been really proud of myself for. Second year of uni has probably been my most organised year of my life! I got my life on track, made more to-do lists, prioritised important tasks. I created a clean desk space where I could be motivated to do things I didn't want to do but needed to do. Overall, I'm impressed that I've achieved this goal and I hope I can continue being organised in my final year of uni as this is my most important year yet and I don't want to screw it up!

-Respect Myself-
I used to struggle with this goal A LOT. When I was a teenager, I found it really difficult to enjoy being myself when everyone around me seemed better. However, now that I've grown up, I've realised my worth and actually really enjoy being me. My personality and appearance have changed in incredible ways, and there's rarely things about me that I don't like now. I completely respect and love myself, and when I was younger I never thought I would achieve this goal so I'm extremely proud to say that I have :)

Overall, I'm making good progress with my goals. Although there's some major things I could work on, I'm determined to achieve these by the end of the year. I've still got 6 months to improve myself, and I believe that I can do it!

Thank you for taking the time to read this blog post; I hope you enjoyed it! What were your New Year's Resolutions, and do you think you've achieved them yet? Let me know in the comments, I'd love to read about your goals and how you can improve on them!


April Favourites / 2017

I can't believe how quickly this year is going... it's already my birthday month! But it's also exam month, the month that I finish my second year of uni, and the month that will potentially be the most stressful for me in the entirety of 2017. 

The end of the month means it's time for my monthly favourites. I've loved SO MUCH this month and I'm extremely excited to show you!

Summer2.0 Stick For Lips and Cheeks 01 / KIKO

A new KIKO shop has recently opened in my city at university, but it's quite dangerous because I'm in there all the time. This is the first KIKO product I have ever tried and I was extremely impressed! I initially went in there to try a super cheap product (they have lipsticks for under £5) just to test out the brand, but my boyfriend convinced me to splurge on a more expensive lipstick. The Summer2.0 collection is LIMITED EDITION, so I decided to buy a lipstick. This shade is perfect for my skin tone and it looks lovely on me. It's a matte finish but doesn't dry your lips out, and it lasts pretty well throughout the day. The quality of the packaging is also incredible - it closes magnetically, meaning it is more likely to stay closed during travel. Overall, this definitely gave me a good impression of KIKO as a brand and I'm excited to try more things from them.

Prime Magic Camera Ready Face Primer / w7

I feel like a proper girl now that I've started using a primer before applying my makeup. Beforehand, I had NEVER primed before in my life. I didn't expect much from this as I picked it up from Boyes and it was extremely cheap. However, this product amazed me immensely. It works so flippin' well! My makeup applies easier and looks better on my face. But the main reason that I love this product is because of how long my makeup lasts for now. Usually my makeup would become oily and greasy shortly after lunchtime, however this primer has completely stopped this issue. My makeup looks amazing all day and I never have to top it up. I'm so happy I found this cheap little primer and I hope they never discontinue it!

Smoky Poppy Range / The Body Shop

The Body Shop has always been one of my favourite brands. Their products are affordable, amazing quality, and smell fantastic. This range was no exception. The smell of the Smoky Poppy range is slightly musky and sophisticated in a feminine way. I have the shower gel and the body butter, and both are amazing quality. The smell lingers for ages when you apply it, and the body butter dries super quickly. I also love the fact that the shower gel is black, it's so cool! I will always love The Body Shop and this range is one of my favourites right now.

Ruffle Sweater Multi Stripe / Next

A HUGE Next has opened up in my home city, and I instantly knew as soon as I walked in that I would spend a ridiculous amount of money in there. I had been eyeing up this top for weeks; my mum and I would always point it out when we were window shopping. However, when I saw it again in the new Next, I decided I would just buy it! I clearly loved it and I had been wanting it for ages, so I treated myself and finally bought it. I absolutely love it, it's so flattering on me. The colours and ruffles make me feel so happy wearing it, and it's also made out of the most comfortable linen material. I'm so happy I finally purchased it.

13 Reasons Why / Netflix

I know that you're probably sick of hearing about this Netflix series now; it's all over social media! So I won't talk too much about this programme. However, if you haven't watched it and you have access to Netflix - PLEASE WATCH IT. It's so informative about issues we need to be informed about, but it does it in a super relatable way as the main people watching this series are quite young adults. It tackles really uncomfortable, difficult life issues. I didn't expect it to be quite so graphic and dark, but I was glad it showed the exact process of each issue because it allows us to understand it more. The final two episodes got me quite emotional and it was EXTREMELY uncomfortable to watch (you'll know exactly what I mean if you've seen it), but the acting was incredible. Overall, I would recommend this Netflix series to everyone. It's difficult to explain what it's about because there's so much going on, so you'll just have to research it for yourself!

MasterChef / BBC One

I cannot express my love for MasterChef right now. I'm obsessed. Why the hell would people prefer The Great British Bake Off when you can have Masterchef?? Masterchef is so tense and competitive - I love it! The crazy cooking techniques on the show are overwhelming. If you like cooking competitions, or fun TV to watch, I'd highly recommend MasterChef!

One Night With My Ex / Channel 5

Another amazing TV show that's on right now. I didn't think I'd like this programme at first - I thought it'd be like TOWIE or Geordie Shore (I HATE THESE PROGRAMMES SO MUCH), but this one is nothing like that at all! It's about people who have to spend the night in an apartment with their ex to try to resolve things or find out what happened between them. It's so juicy and I was instantly hooked from the first few seconds.

Bruno Mars / 24K Magic

Of course I have to include Bruno Mars in my Favourites because... I'M SEEING HIM LIVE ON SATURDAY!!!!!!!!!!!! Bruno Mars is one of my all-time favourite performers; his shows are so entertaining! I've been playing Bruno's new album on repeat whenever I get some free time (it's playing right now as I write this) and I'm obsessed with it. I like every song. My favourites are: Chunky, Versace On The Floor, and Too Good To Say Goodbye.

I hope you enjoyed this Favourites post! I apologise for not uploading often - uni is taking over my life. Anyway, I hope you have an amazing week and I'll be back soon (hopefully).

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